Dealing With Hateful Comments

Being a fat or larger woman (and man) opens you up to criticism and judgement. It just does.

In the world we live in being big is a bad thing. It’s easy to see someone larger and immediately zone in on the FAT.

People seem to think being large is one of the worst things you can ever be.

Most people live in fear of getting fat. True fear.

So, if you’re fat, you’re an easy easy target for cruelty.

I haven’t had a lot of hurtful comments said to my face but I do know for a FACT that they’ve been said behind my back.

Heres the thing: Do words hurt? Yes. Absolutely.

But anyone who bullies you for being fat or larger has the issue. Not you.

Again, anyone who bullies you for being fat or larger has the issue. Not you.

Making fun of someones appearance is one of the lamest things you can do. How unimaginative. Truly. The worst you can come up with is to attack someone for their size and looks?

It’s hateful. It’s cruel. It’s shallow. It’s ugly. It’s abusive. And it’s just sad.

If you’ve been a victim of a hateful comment, of fat shaming, of being made to feel less because of your appearance …oh sweet friend, the problem is not with you.

Anyone who does this to you has a true insecurity issue and are fat-phobic. Yes, that’s a real thing.

It makes no sense to be hateful about someones size.

We all come in different sizes. We all look different and that is a good thing.

We need to learn to not allow peoples mean comments to stick to us as truth.

Someone’s opinion of you is just that AN OPINION.

They don’t know your story and they don’t know your thoughts or what you’ve got going on.

They make snap judgements and it comes from their own insecurities and reveals a lot about them and the place their hearts in.

You need to learn (as I am learning) to live in true freedom.

This is your one life here on earth and we must do what we can to make the most of it.

How terrible to not enjoy YOUR life because you’re caged in by hateful words, fear of judgement, and not fitting into a shallow society.

So how do we deal with hateful comments?

If they’re made to you via the internet, ignore them. That’s one of the most coward things a person can do.

If you find out someone or people are talking behind your back and you hear it through the grapevine, ignore it. People like that need to get a life. lol. I don’t want to be rude but seriously. Is there nothing better to do with your time then sit around and talk about someone else? ESPECIALLY when they know so little about what’s truly going on in that persons life. It makes them feel good to put others down and make assumptions that are negative. Again, how sad for them.

If someone says something to your face, and this is where my stomach starts turning in knots, here is what you do: Smile. I mean it. SMILE. Practice smiling.

It’s going to be soooo hard and soooo uncomfortable. But smile. These people are uneducated, rude, hateful, insecure, cowards, and have serious issues of their own.

Show patience and compassion.

No joke intended but be the bigger person.

If you feel like you HAVE to say something STOP and remember that you don’t. You don’t owe anyone an answer, a response, or a reaction.

Just smile because you know TRUTH and you’re living outside the bondages of society’s thin obsessed shallowness.

Your truth is that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)

Your truth is that beauty doesn’t have a size and it’s not your job to have everyone in the world find you attractive.

LIVE IN YOUR TRUTH.

LIVE FREE.

LIVE CONFIDENTLY.

You’ve got this friend.

You are worthy and no hateful comments can take that away from you.